This is to help me clarify what was going on in my life after an incident on July 2nd 2018.

My neighbour, Iain Fraser, cut down the hedge between our gardens. His three grandsons hacked the hedge down to it’s roots, saying the fence was the boundary and the hedge was on his land.

I spent a week trying to establish whether the hedge was a shared boundary, contacted my solicitor for the title deeds and went round to discuss it with my neighbour with a copy of my email to my solicitor to show what I was trying to establish.

When I said the words hedge and boundary he stood up, shouted at me, refused to read my letter and threatened me with “ pissing on anyone who crossed me  “ and “ I can be really nasty to anyone crossing me.” H wanted a fight, shouted at me, was very aggressive and frightening.

I quietly said, I am not putting up with this, and walked out.

I was shaking and tearful.
Next day, still shaking, clumps of hair fell out and I started coughing. The pneumonia was back.

Since then I have been trying to understand what happened.

One interpretation is that he knew he was wrong and became defensive.

 A couple of days later, my gardener, Forrester, turn up to trim my other hedges. He had not been for nearly two years. I suspected that Iain had spoken to him to get round quickly before I had another gardener to do it, which was what I was planning.

A few more days later, I spoke to Forrester saying I was going to get another gardener to take over the work.

That evening I heard from Lindsay ( new gardener ) that he was spreading tales that I was very rich, property in London and was planning to landscape my garden.

At this point I began to put the pieces together.

What made Iain think he could shout at me, threaten me and behave like an animal?
Would he have done that if I were married?